POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR STRATEGIES:
We are more inclined to resist if someone tells us no.
Sometimes when adults are frustrated with children’s behaviour they say no.
Children resist and ask “Why?” The goal of the following strategies is to
create cooperation and reduce resistance by replacing no and redirecting
behaviour successfully.
1, The Make-A-Big
Deal Strategy:
Practice noticing children behaving appropriately and then
point it out to them.
“I saw you share blocks. That was thoughtful.”
“I heard you solving the problem by taking turns”
“I noticed you helping your friend.”
“You worked hard at putting the toys away.”
When we give attention, thanks, specific and effective
recognition we tell children that we care and make them feel proud of their
contributions. By focusing on positive behaviours we reinforce those
behaviours. The behaviour that gets our positive attention will grow. But we
need practice to notice children when
they are behaving appropriately.
2. Replace With
Something Appropriate Strategy
When children are behaving inappropriately, redirect/replace
it by asking the children to do something appropriate. “Show me how to arrange
the blocks by size.” Instead of saying “no” or “don’t do that”, tell the child
what to do.
For example: Instead of saying “don’t run”, say “we walk
indoors” or “come tiptoe behind me.”
3. The Choice
Strategy
When we let children choose it makes them feel that they are
in control. They will be more willing to cooperate. Give children two choices
and both choices should be positive and
acceptable.
“It is time to clean up. Would you like to put away blocks
or trucks?”
At snack time, “I am serving fruit for snack. Would you like
an apple or a banana?”
4. The When/Then
Strategy:
“When you wash your hands, then you can have a snack.”
When there are too many toys on the floor: “When you put
some toys away, then you can bring other toys out.”
When/then strategy communicates expectations. When children
know what is expected of them they are mopre willing to cooperate. Caution:
when using this strategy make sure your expectations are age and
developmentally appropriate and respectful of the child.
Source: Young Children, July 2011, National Association for
the Education of Young Children
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